This time of year can be a magical one, especially for families with children. Visits to Santa, holiday-themed parties, family get-togethers, and school vacation – life certainly gets hectic. And even if you don’t have kids, the holidays can still put a lot on your plate.
When you’re going through a divorce, or recently became divorced, the seasonal hustle and bustle can seem completely overwhelming.
It’s important to remember that you’re not alone, and that many people are going through the same experience. During our time practicing law here in Opelika, we’ve had the opportunity to put together a few tips that might help make the holidays easier during your divorce.
Priority one should be the kids. You and your ex-spouse should have the same goal for your children – that they enjoy the holidays, spend time with family and friends, and decompress during the school break. Make the most of the time you spend together over the holidays, and do your best to work together and cooperate with your ex.
Create new traditions. Things change after a separation or divorce, whether or not you have children. It’s important to blend in new traditions with your old ones as you enter a new phase in life. This can be as small as adding a new film to your holiday movie rotation, or doing charity work with your kids – as long as you have something special to share in the years ahead.
Avoid spending the holidays alone. Many mental health experts warn not to isolate during the holidays, especially when it’s the first one post-divorce. Try to make plans with people you care about, whether they’re friends or family. You could host a get-together, volunteer at a church or shelter, join a support group, or find another way to give back. Any of these will help you avoid being alone, and others will appreciate your presence.
Focus on your favorite things about the holidays. Try to take a break from the stress of your divorce. Don’t let your split stop you from enjoying any part of the holidays, especially if you have kids – they may feel guilty about having a good time. Just about everyone can find something to like about this time of year, and it doesn’t have to be a lavish gift. Maybe holiday cookies, music, looking at decorations – find what you enjoy and celebrate.
Consider taking a social media break. Studies show when we’re already feeling depressed, comparing ourselves to others on Facebook or Instagram can actually make us feel worse. Think about deleting the app for a while and giving yourself a break from the stream of staged family photos. You’ll be surprised how freeing it can feel.
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Here at Agricola Law, we’d like to take the opportunity to wish you a happy holiday. We’re pleased to continue serving your East Alabama and Chattahoochee Valley family law needs throughout 2019. To schedule a meeting with an experienced attorney, contact us today.Share on: Facebook Twitter LinkedIn